I am tired of the box. The box that people put black women in. Images of Sharkeisha and nem have flooded social media and television and people really believe that all black women are ticking time bombs ready to roll our necks and pop a nigga in the face at every second. All of us have god-awful 48 inch weaves and wear club dresses just to go pick up our children from school. We are fat, loud and abrasive. We kick puppies and loathe babies. We don't celebrate holidays and Jesus is our husband.
Yes! Sharkeisha's do exist but there are so many counter images to this in real life that the paradox is unnerving. Most of the black women that I know and associate with are very giving women who would give their last breath for the ones they love. Most black women I know are articulate, beautiful in spirit, well-wounded individuals who don't identify with K-Michelle or any other random chick that VH1 has hired to continue this legacy of the ticking time bomb black woman. Television is a medium that tells lies on a daily basis. Images are created in order to make others judge and have opinions of people that would not have had they not viewed said television program. Look at the Housewives of Atlanta. Almost every single woman on the show has the financial responsibility of her relationship. I am not saying that women in a relationship should not make more than her man. What I am saying is that this is the relationship that is promoted and allowed to be consumed as normal. I know black women who are very well taken care of by their husbands. This is America, some women are more financially stable than their man. This is the reality of many couples, black AND white. Yet, conveniently only the black housewives franchise shows this type of relationship. It is amazing how television shapes our attitudes and minds towards each other. I've had to catch myself in judging others because of promoted stereotypes. All white women are not sweet and beautiful. All black women are not evil and mean. All white men are not smart and rich. All black men are not players and punks. Stereotypes are the enemy. The belief of the stereotype is the demise. If we count on television and social media to tell our stories..they will not be told, or they will be told with such untruths that they will misrepresent us. I am a black woman. I read biographies and love Salvador Dali. I listen to Tupac and Nirvana. I read business magazines and I don't watch Scandal. We are mothers, sisters, friends, wives, lovers and scholars. We are doctors, lawyers, teachers, musicians. We are not the evil, backstabbing, unattractive, unlovable beings that we are painted to be. It is my mission to tell the world that we are more than what they see...and if they don't believe it....that is their problem.